| International Standard Book Number |
9780063447554 electronic book
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| International Standard Book Number |
9780063447578 hardcover
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| International Standard Book Number |
0063447576 hardcover
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| Personal Name |
Young, Jennie (Professor of writing), author.
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| Title Statement |
Burn the haystack : decode dating, torch the duds, and make room for men who matter / Jennie Young, PhD.
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| Edition Statement |
First edition.
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| Production, Publication, Distribution, Manufacture, and Copyright Notice |
New York, NY : William Morrow, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 2026.
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| Physical Description |
xvii, 302 pages ; 24 cm.
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| Bibliography, Etc. Note |
Includes bibliographical references (pages [293]-294) and index.
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| Formatted Contents Note |
Introduction: The Burned Haystack origin story (or, "Single woman desperately Googles things late at night") -- So many badass women : the feminist dating revolution begins... -- Smiling devils and bitchy profiles : the early seeds of Burned Haystack -- Course syllabus : feminism and rhetorical theory in contemporary dating culture (aka critical discourse analysis is sexy) -- The Burned Haystack method rules : frequently asked questions -- Red-flag rhetorical patterns : run! -- Toxic dating coaches : how to spot them and when to block them -- More tactics and tricks to game the apps (so they can't game you!) -- Dating app profiles that led to needles : what made them work? -- Burned Haystack beyond the apps : date-me docs, speed dating, and meeting in the wild (aka "haystack hacks") -- Burned Haystack beyond dating : rhetoric in real life -- About the success stories -- A love letter from me -- Acknowledgments -- Appendix: The toxic rhetorical patterns -- Haystack bookstack: Recommendations for further reading.
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| Summary, Etc. |
"It's time for a feminist dating revolution! The eagerly awaited first book by the creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method who's transforming the dating world by helping you ditch the duds, preserve your peace, and find your needle. How do you find a needle in a haystack? You burn the haystack to the ground. Among Dr. Jennie Young's legion of fans, the "needle" is a long-term, committed partner and the "haystack" is the group of men available to date. So often women are advised to "give the guy a chance" -- even if the guy is a lazy communicator or looking for someone "fluent in sarcasm." Young's refreshing approach to online dating turns this advice on its head: Give almost no one a chance. A professor of rhetoric and women's and gender studies, Young has built a career teaching people how to decode the hidden meanings in ordinary communication. Fascinated (and frustrated) by the rhetorical gambits she saw in men's profiles when she first downloaded a dating app, she created Burned Haystack to help other women navigate the nonsense and find their needles. Her method has quickly spread to more than 250,000 followers and become the smart woman's guide to online dating sanity. Young has revolutionized the dating lexicon, calling out rhetorical patterns to watch for in men's communication: "I'm a very busy man!": Leading with this language establishes him at the top of the hierarchy and frames him as a reward for a worthy woman. Test and Apologize: He texts something sexual, then apologizes before she can respond, pretending it was an "accident." He's testing if she'll be okay with immediate objectification. The test is real; the apology isn't. "My kids come first": Taken literally, this sounds like a good dad. But if you examine the subtext and the context, he's in effect saying, "Don't expect too much from me." Young's engaging system empowers readers to sort through profiles quickly and effectively, preserving both time and sanity. And with its blend of scathing humor and academic rigor, Burn the Haystack is so much more than a dating tool -- it gives women the skills to break down communication from the classroom to the boardroom and everywhere in between, and the confidence to approach life with a deeper, more powerful level of understanding"-- Provided by publisher.
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| Subject Added Entry - Topical Term |
Dating (Social customs)
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| Subject Added Entry - Topical Term |
Man-woman relationships.
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| Subject Added Entry - Topical Term |
Single women.
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| Index Term-Genre/Form |
Self-help publications.
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